Rather than being in an attitude of 'anything goes', occupy a deep awareness which makes contact which is permissive to what is trying to arise. Be guided by consciously cooperating with higher self and when u sense a scorching wind, know u bend when it blows. being transparent and flexible, hidden agendas of yr own or others no longer block movement, no longer gauge responses on the basis of tightly proscribed conditions. Life will always be expansive with contractions, trusting in this unfolding process requires the dissolution of controlling and defensive habits.
Squeezing reality into time frames, purposes, and needs means your not comfortable with things as they unfold which is the miraculous nature of what reality rlly is.